I’m a perfectionist AND a genealogist. I learned very early on that in order for this relationship to proceed smoothly there was going to have to be some give and take. This can be a challenge for those like me; you want everything to fit exactly where it’s supposed to. Sometimes in our research you have to discover a square peg in a round hole and now you have to prove why it really does belong there. It’s even more difficult for African Americans whose proof has been burned or buried and we resort to matching ages with check marks.